上周立了看《婚姻故事》的flag，周日晚上花了2小时看完。
整个故事从一对夫妻决定离婚开始讲起，到过程中他们为争夺孩子抚养权而对这段婚姻生活回忆各自的曲解与不甘，彼此之间在婚姻中建立的爱和尊重被各自的欲望淹没消解。两个演员（特别是寡姐）对于对话中情绪变化的演绎真的太棒了，大片争吵的桥段我注意到没有烘托紧张气氛的BGM，但台词的真实刻骨以及两位的对手戏演绎很自然的就把你拉入情景之中。
然后我去豆瓣看了看，豆瓣有讲到几个让我感兴趣的点，一是婚姻中的个体叙事，其实不只是婚姻，人对于回忆都有加工想象的本能。这种个体叙事只是为了迎合当下你的心理需要，并不一定是真实发生的情况。二是婚姻中的权力探讨，电影中作为导演的丈夫与作为演员的妻子，在工作中本来就是指导/被指导的关系，而这种权力不对等也渗透进他们生活的方方面面。想起来曾经听过的播客中，一位老师曾经问过一个问题：我们在讨论爱的时候，究竟在讨论什么？爱作为一种抽象而复杂的理想化概念，有时候却很好的掩盖了其中的权力关系这一现实因素。三是离婚小孩争夺战时律师要求寡姐必须在法院面前塑造一个“完美”的母亲角色，她说父亲可以不完美，父亲偶尔接送孩子上学就已经能够被夸赞，而母亲这一角色好像被社会赋予了更多的神性期待，似乎母亲就理所当然的与“完美”匹配。这一不平等的要求也反映了人们对于女性在母职中的过分付出的无视与习以为常。
最近还看了日剧《热点》（非常有意思的电视剧），重温《春夜》（爱情剧最佳）。接下来准备看《苦尽甘来遇见你》（听老师说这部剧对母女关系的刻画非常细致），《革命之路》（亲密关系探讨）。
最后，把律师当时那段神级台词搬出来。
“People don’t accept mothers who drink too much wine and yell at their child and call him an asshole. I get it. I do it too. We can accept an imperfect dad. Let’s face it. The idea of a good father was only invented like 30 years ago. Before that, father was expected to be silent and absent and unreliable and selfish and can all say we want them to be different. But on some basic level, we accept them. We love them for their fallibilities. But people don’t absolutely accept those same faillings in mothers. We don’t accept it structurally and we don’t accept it spiritually. Because the basis of our Judeo-Christian whatever is Mary, Mother of Jesus. And she is perfect. She is a virgin who gives birth, unwaveringly supports her child and holds his body when he’s gone. And the dad isn’t there. He didn’t even do the fucking. God is in heaven. God is the father and God didn’t show up. So you have to be perfect and Charlie can be a fuck up and it doesn’t matter. You will always be held to a different and higher standard. And it’s fucked up, but that’s the way it is. ”