非常喜欢心理学家维吉尼亚的这句话:
I like this sentence from psychologist Virginia very much:

当我内心足够强大
When my heart is strong enough

你指责我，我感受到你的受伤
You accuse me. and I feel your hurt

你讨好我，我看到你需要认可
You flatter me. i see you need validation

当你能够意识到这世界上的所有关系
When you realize that all relationships in the world

其实都包含着一场巨大的恐惧投射时
Involve a huge projection of fear

别人的评价就再也不会影响到你
The judgment of others will no longer affect you